Are Your Past Wounds Secretly Running Your Life? Learn About Innerchild Healing.
Let’s be real—how often do you find yourself reacting to something and later wondering, Why did that affect me so much?
Maybe it’s the fear of rejection that makes you hesitate before speaking up in a meeting.
Maybe it’s the need to prove yourself in relationships, bending over backward just to be loved.
Or maybe it’s the guilt that creeps in whenever you try to set boundaries, making you feel like you’re doing something wrong.
These aren’t just random emotions. More often than not, they’re echoes from the past—wounds from your childhood that never truly healed but instead, got buried deep within. In this blog, you will learn in brief about the innerchild healing.
The Child Within You Never Disappears
No matter how old you are, your inner child is still very much alive. The experiences, emotions, and beliefs you absorbed as a child didn’t just vanish as you grew up—they shaped the lens through which you see the world today.
Think about it:
🔹 Did you feel unseen as a child? You might struggle with feeling ignored in your relationships.
🔹 Were you constantly criticized? You may have grown into a perfectionist, terrified of making mistakes.
🔹 Did you learn that love had to be earned? You might still be seeking approval from everyone around you, afraid of being abandoned.
Your adult self may not consciously remember these things all the time, but your subconscious does. And until these wounds are healed, they continue to influence your decisions, your emotions, and even your physical health.
How My Inner Child Showed Up in My Life
I remember a time when I found it incredibly difficult to accept praise. Someone could genuinely compliment my work, and my immediate response would be, “Oh, it’s nothing,” or “I could have done better.”
Why?
Because growing up, I was conditioned to believe that being “too proud” wasn’t acceptable. Praise was often followed by a warning – “Don’t get too full of yourself” or “There’s always someone better than you.”
As a result, my inner child associated success with discomfort. No matter how much I achieved, I downplayed it.
I also remember how deeply criticism shaped me. Growing up in an environment where mistakes were pointed out more than progress, I learned to associate being good enough with being perfect. If I made a mistake, it wasn’t just a mistake – it felt like a reflection of my worth.
So, I became hyper-aware, overanalyzing everything I did, afraid to fail, afraid to disappoint. If something wasn’t 100% right, I wouldn’t even try. I second-guessed my decisions, held myself to impossible standards, and found it hard to celebrate wins because in my mind, it could always be better.
It took me years to unlearn this. To realize that growth comes from allowing myself to be imperfect. That mistakes are not failures, but stepping stones. And that the voice of criticism I carried wasn’t mine, it was a reflection of the conditioning I had absorbed as a child.
It took deep inner child healing to heal these wounds. I finally started giving myself permission to just be, to try, to stumble, to learn, to feel proud, and realize that I deserved to be praised and accepted for my mistake. Once I healed? I started allowing myself to shine. I felt free!
Your Inner Child at Work, in Relationships, and in Everyday Life
Unhealed wounds don’t just sit quietly in the background. They show up in three major areas of life:
1️. In Relationships:
- Do you fear abandonment, even in stable relationships?
- Do you attract emotionally unavailable partners, repeating patterns from childhood?
- Do you struggle with trust or find yourself in constant people-pleasing mode?
Example: If you grew up in a home where love was inconsistent, you might find yourself subconsciously drawn to relationships where you have to “earn” love, simply because it feels familiar.
2️. In Your Career & Success:
- Do you hesitate to ask for a promotion, fearing you’re not good enough?
- Do you overwork yourself, tying your worth to productivity?
- Do you struggle with imposter syndrome, feeling like you don’t deserve success?
Example: If you were always told as a child to “be responsible” or “work hard to prove yourself,” you might find yourself feeling guilty anytime you slow down or enjoy your success.
3️. In Your Emotional & Mental Well-Being:
- Do you find yourself shutting down in conflicts instead of expressing how you feel?
- Do you struggle with feelings of shame, guilt, or being “not enough”?
- Do you avoid certain emotions because they feel overwhelming?
Example: If your emotions weren’t validated as a child—if you were told “Stop crying” or “Get over it”—you may have learned to suppress your feelings instead of processing them.
How Do You Begin Innerchild Healing?
The good news? Your inner child is still there, waiting to be heard. Healing starts with awareness—noticing where old wounds are running the show and consciously choosing a new way forward.
One simple but powerful exercise you can try is this:
📝 Write a Letter to Your Younger Self
- Find a quiet space, take a deep breath, and close your eyes.
- Picture yourself as a child—what does that version of you need to hear?
- Now, write to them. Offer the love, reassurance, and understanding they didn’t receive at the time.
This small act alone can bring up emotions, but that’s a sign you’re touching the places that need healing the most.
Of course, healing your inner child is a journey—one that requires support, guidance, and deeper work. If you feel called to explore this further, I offer 1:1 Inner Child Healing Sessions, as well as my Comprehensive Healing Program, which weaves this work into a powerful 45-day transformation.
If this resonates, take the next step toward healing. You don’t have to do it alone!
Final Thoughts: You Are Worth Innerchild Healing
Healing your inner child isn’t about blaming your past—it’s about reclaiming your power in the present.
And the truth is, your inner child doesn’t need perfection. They just need love, acceptance, and safety.
So, if you’ve been feeling stuck, ask yourself:
What patterns am I repeating?
What emotions keep surfacing in my life?
What would happen if I started listening to the child within me?
Your healing doesn’t start when everything in your life is perfect. It starts the moment you choose to give yourself the love and care you always deserved.
